I skipped Saturday. And I almost skipped today, too.
Have I failed?
Well, part of me definitely thinks I have–check out the barrage:
“You never do what you say you’re going to do.”
“You fail at everything.”
“You’re so unreliable.”
“You always commit to too much.”
“You will never succeed.”
Hellllllooooo, Nasty!
Whenever I hear Brandy Mychals talk about the Cheerleader Character Code, I cringe because…Well, I am my worst nightmare. “Enthusiastic about many things but often fails to follow through or complete projects.” I end up disappointing myself and other people, and I feel absolutely terrible about it–and then those nasty voices take me for all I’m worth.
So what is the antidote to all of this yuck-ness?
One simple mantra: “I totally deserve to be loved even though _____________.” That blank can be anything that comes in between me and powerfully loving myself. I just say it over and over, peeling away the layers one at a time, following the feelings and seeing what they reveal.
This been a big year, many changes, many ups and downs, and I have needed to love myself through all of them. Thanks goodness I have a quite a few tricks in my bag. Especially because if I get bored of one, like the cheerleader I am, I can try something else.
Do you have something simple that helps you out of the dark hole? If so, share below–you never know who it might help 
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Thank for the reminder to forgive myself for not doing what I know I should do. A kick in the rear once in a while also helps.
Great post!! Very inspirational!!!
Wow, even if you are not a cheerleader, that little imp that sits on your shoulder sounds like that sometimes! Go ahead, give him a good kick off your shoulder. Great post!
I agree with you and Abigail. Lets keep it simple and forget the negative. I can so relate. Woke up this morning feeling like hell on wheels. Have to get out and kick the alligator to the curb. Off to embrace life, inspite of the monkey chatter. I do deserve to be loved! by me first LOL.
Jennifer Duchene
Home Makeover Mixtress
lol, hell on wheels. Yes, I get like that when my nasties kick in!
Great post, Kellie. I’m going to reference it as Further Reading for my post today.
I am writing about having a dialogue with that Inner Critic – on paper.
A very powerful technique.
Here’s an older post about it.
http://judypeebles.com/your-inner-critic/
Thanks, Judy–that’s great! I like your exercise on questions as well.
I am not overly sporty – no gym membership. But I have found that sugar balance (negative) and endorphins (positive) have a huge effect on mood swings. Going for a long, brisk, aerobic walk does more good than most people expect. I wonder if it might be better to say “I totally deserve to be loved.” Period. Who needs to be dragging a negative situation ionto a positive affirmation?
YES, Abigail! Those things are huge. This morning, vigorous exercise was #1 priority, and I feel like a different person.
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